Post Traumatic Stress

alcoholic man

Dear TAT® Friend,

In a traumatic experience, a part of our consciousness can become wrapped up in “solving” a problem, protecting us from danger or abuse, or just trying to find sense in a senseless situation. The beliefs that spring up can be inaccurate but there are parts of us that hold onto those beliefs and remind us of them when we are in new stressful situations — particularly situations that are like the original one. The resonance with the original situation triggers the part or parts of us that were born in the original traumatic or stressful events.

Trauma triggers an overproduction of stress hormones — namely cortisol. If you are constantly reliving a traumatic experience, stress hormones remain activated, keeping you in a state of high alert. You might experience trembling or exaggerated startle response, especially to things that remind you of the traumatic event. These are called “triggers.”

You will enter the fight, flight, or freeze mode whenever you feel triggered. You’ll feel compelled to either defend yourself against the trigger, run from it, or you could feel paralyzed. Sleep might be difficult and you may feel the need to avoid people or situations that you believe threaten your safety. 

Chronic stress following a traumatic event can have long-term health effects, including:

  • Heart and liver disease
  • Addictive behaviors like alcoholism and smoking
  • Chronic pain conditions
  • Gastrointestinal illness
  • Cancer
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Feelings of despair, guilt, and shame
  • Emotional numbness
  • Cognitive impairment such as memory lapses, difficulty making decisions, distractibility, withdrawal from your typical routine, and even a lost sense of time

These webinars are a place to get some relief from anxiety and fear brought on by posttraumatic stress. You can participate silently or may have a chance to share, depending on how many people join in. You can also be present and be totally anonymous.

TAT® for a Traumatic Event:

Monday, July 20th – 10:00 – 11:30 am PST or

Tuesday, July 21st – 3:30 pm to 5:00 pm PST

Everyone who signs up will receive a copy of the webinar recording. If you are new to TAT, what you need to know will be explained during the webinar.

If you have any suggestions on webinar topics you would like me to create please email them to me at: [email protected].

Warmest wishes,

Tapas

Why was I so hard to love?

broken heart

Dear TAT® Friend,

Here’s a wonderful story I received — I thought you would like it too.

“As a child I was taught to be good, quiet, clean, respectful, never to be a burden, never to get in the way, and to never put a foot out of place. Praise and love were only given when it was earned. Those moments that I did step out of line I was reminded that I wasn’t wanted, that me being born ruined my mother’s life and that I was a financial burden. 

This lead to a belief system in my adult life that kept me in terrible romantic and work related relationships. I felt I always had to go the extra mile, always had to be spectacular, I could never be sick or ask for help. I could never appear weak or incapable. I always gave everything I had in every area of my life and always found myself in a state of disappointment and sadness. 

Why was I so hard to love? What was wrong with me that all people did was take and rarely give anything back? I tried so hard to please and still, I was only receiving praise and scraps of love when I turned myself inside out for those people.

While doing Healing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) with the Tapas Acupressure technique® (TAT®) program I had a revelation. Through those false beliefs created as a child I had caused most of these situations. I was the one constantly rejecting help, I took it upon myself to be superwoman and I never asked for help. I was the one who wanted to “wow” these people. Many of them were impressed with me, but I never asked for anything. Not what I needed in romantic relationships, not what I needed at work, not even what I needed from my friends. I never spoke up for myself or asked for help.

Then I realized that I had been blaming a lot of people for taking advantage of me, using me or leaving me to suffer alone. It was time to look at my actions, my behavior and my perception of the world.

I had trouble with forgiveness at first. But as I truly began to forgive those who had wronged me, those who had stood by and did nothing when they could have helped me and those who said they loved and appreciated me but were never able to show it, that’s when my life began to stabilize. 

I found forgiveness to be a relief. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my heart. Holding on to the pain they had caused just kept me in pain. Letting it all go, every single wound, was an amazing first step. But forgiving myself was when life really started getting better.

I was able to let go of the beliefs I had created out of trying to survive, trying to be good, trying to not get in the way, trying not to be a burden, trying to not be a target, trying to keep myself small and quiet.

I was finding that life was enjoyable again. 

I am so grateful that through my TAT work I had found the importance of being present and how wonderful it felt. I had finally forgiven myself and it felt amazing, but when my focus shifted to simply loving and accepting myself for who I am right now, life really began to change.

I didn’t need to “wow” anyone, I didn’t need to prove my worth, I didn’t need to go the extra mile and I didn’t need to earn love. I had survived, I am strong, intelligent, kind, beautiful and free. Free from the voices and the people and the places in my mind that always told me I wasn’t good enough.

I knew there was more TAT to do and more things to create and aspire to, but I loved me again. I am filled with a happiness I have never known and can’t wait to explore it. Where will this new love and happiness take me? I don’t know, but I’m so excited to continue the journey.  

Thank you Tapas for the amazing, life changing, gift of TAT!

  • Lynn S.

Thank you so much for sending this Lynn S. 

Love and smiles,

Tapas

SO EXCITED!!! — New way to heal with TAT®

Healing ACEs

Dear TAT® Friend,

After 25 years of working with thousands of clients, workshop attendees and myself, it became clear that most of us were dealing with the long-lasting effects of childhood trauma.    

After failed relationships back in my 20’s, I started searching for a real way to quit that frustrating, repeating cycle. It seemed like my bad relationship with my dad was controlling every relationship that came after. I wondered: how can something that happened decades ago have such a strong hold now?   

When the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study came out in 1998, it confirmed what I already knew: childhood trauma negatively affects our health and adult life. Now I had the science to back up what I was seeing.

With TAT and the ACE study, I have the complete answer to my search:  TAT can heal the traumas (ACEs) that cause toxic stress-induced beliefs and behaviors.   

I am SO EXCITED!!! Really, I haven’t been this excited to share something with you since coming up with TAT.  I’ve created an all-new, comprehensive program to heal childhood trauma and resulting adult issues that affect us now:  Healing ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) with the TAT® Program.  

It’s easier than ever to follow along:  there are 18 Lessons with specific tips and suggestions for each type of trauma. Possible choices to set your course for experiencing more love, happiness and peace every day come with each Lesson, too. You will also receive 3 bonus recordings to use for whatever is going on for you in the present. It’s truly a “don’t-make-me-think” way to heal.

Click here for all the information -- I think you’re going to love sitting back, pushing “play”, and watching yourself get more happy and free!

It's an amazing blessing to have had TAT come to me and it means so much to me to share it with you.

Love and warm wishes,
Tapas